How Do You Heal a Broken Heart?

My guilty pleasure is reading Thought Catalog because it allows me to see how other people live and how they see the world. Recently, I came across an article “3 Ways to Heal After a Breakup” and I thought, why not share my tips? Hahaha!

Medyo walang K pero baka puwede na din. I’ve had my heart broken three times. Back then, a heartbreak was something your friends or family would tell you to brush off. “Okay lang. Balewala lang yan. Kaya mo ‘yan!”

But recent studies have shown that a broken heart is real and there’s even a scientific term for that. “Stress-induced cardiomyopathy” or “takotsubo cardiomyopathy” is how researchers call it. In layman’s terms, it’s the Broken Heart Syndrome.

Here’s what has to say:

The bad news: Broken heart syndrome can lead to severe, short-term heart muscle failure.

The good news: Broken heart syndrome is usually treatable. Most people who experience it make a full recovery within weeks, and they’re at low risk for it happening again (although in rare cases in can be fatal). 

Healing is different for people. Some people take a long time to heal while others can snap out of it quite quickly. In my case, these had been my ways to heal my broken heart.

1. Bury yourself with work (or school).
Distraction has always been important for me. I bury myself with work or school, or both. It helps me keep my mind off things that I no longer have control of, and it allows me to forget the pain.

Before I know it, nakalimutan ko na kung bakit nga ba ako broken-hearted. Naging productive pa ako. 😀

The worst thing I experienced was I quit my job immediately after a break-up. Very bad idea! Toinks talaga!

That moment was like a perfect storm for me. I had a broken heart, I had no job, and my money was running out. The company I was supposed to transfer to took a long time to process my papers. Because of all these factors, I suffered from mild depression.

Buti na lang I had my MBA to keep me occupied. I remember taking three subjects in one trimester. Shucks, halos maloka ako sa hirap! 😀

2. Listen to angry music.
Angry music is cathartic for me. The last time I got my heart broken, I listened to Pink and Kelly Clarkson for a whole month. I realized that I was already moving on when I stopped listening to their angry songs and went back to my usual playlist. Here are some great angry songs from these two favorites:

The only caveat here is that this won’t work if you are not angry. When I had my heart broken for the first time (he was my first love in college), I was never angry. I was just extremely sad. Lekat! Hahahaha!

3. Hang out with friends
Friends are family that you choose. They will make you feel that your life is not over and that you have a lot more to offer the world.

4. Pray. A LOT.
This is fool-proof. Praying heals. I consider myself as prayerful person but I’m even more so when things are not going well. 

Praying paves the way for a lot of things. You learn to forget the pain, you learn to be thankful, and you learn to forgive not only the one who hurt you but also yourself.

If anything, praying is the most important thing you should do.

5. Believe that everything will be okay.
And it always does. Whether you believe in God or not, believe that things will be better. 

And to end this post, here’s what Kelly Clarkson has to say:

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone
What doesn’t kill you makes a fighter
Footsteps even lighter
Doesn’t mean I’m over cause you’re gone