Not Best Friends


I am not your best friend and you will never call me your best friend. But I know that I’m the friend closest to your heart, the one you tell your deepest and darkest secrets to. I’m the one you turn to when the going gets really though.

You are not my best friend and I will never call you my best friend. But you will always be the one I turn to for every little success, for every little joy, for every little pain. I often tell you that you can destroy my life with how much information you know about me.

We are not best friends and we will never call each other best friends. But we know every little thing about each other. All the joys, the pains, the hurts, the milestones. We are always present when we need and do not need each other.

We are not best friends and we will never call each other best friends. And we’re both fine with that. In fact, we never really talked about it. We didn’t need to.

Because the label has never been important and it will never be important.

We both know what is and that’s all that matters.

This entry was posted on September 2, 2016, in Life Lessons.

Wall of Positivity


There’s something powerful about being positive. When I was still in the midst of processing a legal case, I tried my utmost best in avoiding any negative emotion. I’ve learned that negativity did not do anything good. It distracted me from focusing on my goal.


I have one goal this year and I’m sticking to that. Sometimes I catch myself thinking negatively but I always stop myself. Just like last year, I don’t want to give power to any doubt because I am 100% driven to achieve this year’s goal. I will achieve it, by hook or by crook.

This entry was posted on August 23, 2016, in Life Lessons.

Let God Surprise You!

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Sometimes you try to find a way to make your hopes a reality pero nagiging pilit and what you want does not really materialize. But the thing is, God has better plans for you and you should just trust Him enough that whatever His plans are for you, these are so much better than what you have in mind.

Sometimes, it’s hard to believe but it is true. Just trust Him. Let Him surprise you. 🙂

This entry was posted on August 17, 2016, in Life Lessons.

Days Ahead


There will be days when you feel so much pain. Even the mere mention of the name would be like a knife ripping your heart into tiny little shreds.

There will be days when you just don’t want to wake up because waking up means remembering everything you’ve been through and you feel like you just can’t take it anymore.

There will be days when you ask yourself if there’s a bright future ahead of you, if the day will ever come that you will feel alive.

There will be days when you just want to give up because a little voice in your head tells you that it’s no longer worth it.

There will be days when you ask yourself so many questions. Why did this happen to you? Will things ever make sense?

Yes, there will be days like this.

But there will come a day when you will wake up and realize that all the pain has passed, that any mention of that name will no longer give you pain.

There will come a day when you will wake up ready to face the world. You will face the day with love and gratitude in your heart because you know you have survived the toughest time in your life.

There will come a day when you will finally understand that all your questions have been answered. You understand why things happened and everything has made sense.

There will come a day when you realize that a bright future is already here and now. You are alive once more. You are smiling once more. And you are ready to love once more.

I promise that day will come and when that day comes, you know everything was worth it.



So much has been said about love. So many hugots, so many bitter lines, so many hearts longing for that elusive dream. Does it exist? Is it attainable? Or it’s just a figment of imagination, much like the fairy tales you grew up with?

It’s easy to feel jaded about love. It’s easy to give up on love. After all, It’s not uncommon to see movies about broken hearts, broken marriages, and broken dreams. Songs lamenting of infidelity. TV shows of mistresses, abandoned children, despairing spouses.
But sometimes you’re lucky to witness a love that continues to withstand the test of time. Despite the ups and downs (very little downs, I might add), you see a love that remains true and happy.

And then you realize that this love is not just love for each other and for the nuclear family. This love also extends to other members of your otherwise dysfunctional clan (which clan isn’t?). It is shown through 50 years of generosity and kindness with the hopes that everyone will have better opportunities and, in the process, better lives.

Maybe that’s what love is all about. Maybe the best kind of love is not spoken. Maybe the best kind of love is giving yourself not only to your spouse but to everyone else you meet and who you share your life with. Maybe to have that kind of love is enough.

Maybe that kind of love is more than enough.

Photo Credit: Dennis Mendoza

Batanes In Your Mind

IMG_9632Where time runs slow and your innermost thoughts scream loudly.

Traveling can be both rewarding and jarring. It allows you to listen to stories and explore new things. At the same time, it confronts you with thoughts and emotions that you never knew existed.

Who are you? Are you an interesting human being? What stories do you share to people? Do they want to know you? Do they see through you? Do you have to talk incessantly for people to understand and know you? Or do you know that people worthy of your time are those who are willing to reach out to you?

And you likewise realize how much you have in your life. The comfortable life you temporarily leave behind. The many things you enjoy but take for granted. The close friends who see you for who you are despite your occasional silence. The ones who love listening to your stories. The ones who see through you and understand that you are a wonderful human being and that you are welcome to stay in their lives.

The Batanes in your mind is images of contrast. Amidst the scenic views and breathtaking creations, there you are reflecting on your own life and wonder if it is just as breathtaking as the view.

And as you leave Batanes behind, you look back and realize that the life you lead, has lead, and will continue to lead also takes your breath away.

Will & Grace

Will & Grace is my all-time favorite TV series. I must have watched every episode at least five times. It’s so sarcastic, funny and well, sarcastic. 🙂 This is my favorite quote from Will & Grace. It was used as a wedding vow but it’s also applicable in any kind of relationship. 🙂1c37508ce06d065a4bb5fb97160ad061



Change Is Coming


Tomorrow we herald a new chapter in our country as we elect new leaders.

This election has been terribly divisive, pitting one group with another. Admittedly, I’ve been looking at what’s happening through the social media lens and I am not happy with what I’m seeing. Friends unfollow friends. Passive aggressiveness displayed all over. Respected media establishments losing credibility over some newly created websites or blogs. Trolls everywhere. Photoshopped images, fabricated stories, conspiracy theories. A lot of hate and anger. I repeat, a lot of hate and anger.

In social media, there’s no such thing as the “bigger man” and “taking the high road.” Everyone just has to say something, anything.

Even the people I respect the most weren’t able to escape this onslaught of hate. I was and still am terribly disappointed.

The only good thing I see of this is that we are finally showing that we are not apathetic at all. We feel passionately, after all.

Tomorrow we will elect new leaders. Despite political differences, I am hopeful that the Philippines will continue its path to progress and growth. I pray that we will have leaders, who will take us in that direction. I pray that God will guide them to advance the country’s development over their own interests. Bayan muna bago ang sarili.

More importantly, I pray that we Filipinos will continue working hard. May we learn to respect and follow the law. May we learn not to cheat the government of taxes. May we learn not to bribe public officials, MMDA officers, government employees. May we learn the lesson that change should come from within.

Whoever wins the elections tomorrow, please don’t disappoint us. And to the 110 million Filipinos here and abroad, please don’t disappoint your country. For the sake of the Philippines, please be responsible citizens.