A couple of weeks back, our team had our kick-off conference/teambuilding activity. We went kayaking and my boss partnered with me because I don’t know how to swim.
As we boarded our kayak, I asked him what should I do. He said, “Relax ka lang. Ako’ng bahala sa iyo.”
“Ako’ng bahala sa iyo.”
Those, to me, are powerful words.
I learned independence at a young age. I have a strong sense of self and I like making decisions for myself. I am self-reliant and pretty much do everything for myself.
I rarely hear someone say to me “Ako’ng bahala sa iyo” but it feels good when I hear it. There’s something so beautiful about that statement. And it works for me on so many levels.
Allowing someone to be responsible for me means humility (mainly on my part). Like I said, I pretty much do everything for myself, which means I have a good control of my life. To have someone be responsible for me means letting go and that is a challenge.
Second, it requires complete trust. I’ve been burned many times and trust is something I don’t readily give. Accepting that statement means I have to trust that person.
Third, that statement requires confidence (mainly on the person who said it). Confidence is so fucking sexy. LOL! I don’t care if you’re fat, small, thin, tall, etc. If you have confidence (not arrogance, ah), you are damn one sexy beast. 🙂
Imagine mo na lang you go out on a date and your date says, “Relax ka lang. Ako’ng bahala sa iyo.” Isn’t that great? It sends the message na your date has thought of everything and all you need to do is enjoy the night. 1000+ pogi points!
Fourth, it’s something I want and need. Being independent can be exasperating and I accept that people need people (is that a song?). At times, I just want to sit back and let someone take over. Parang, “Okay, chill lang ako dito. Bahala ka na sa akin.”
Nice, di ba?